Tuning In to Your Unique Self: 3. Seek answers within yourself

Learn to seek answers within yourself for happiness and personal power

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While it is human nature to seek answers all the time, we actually have many answers to our questions deep in our heart. So goes the saying — seek within, not without. A promotion at work, with the associated prestige and status, may make you happy at first.

But once that level of triumph and achievement is reached, you may quickly become dissatisfied and longing for the next step up in order to remain fulfilled. Others become people pleasers as they put the happiness of others around them as paramount to their own. This behavior of making others happy comes to define those individuals, but in fixating on pleasing the crowd and making others happy, such individuals often become internally unhappy as their own happiness is neglected.

Once that state of feeling unhappy or dissatisfied is reached (again), you will basically be back at square one. That seeking of meaning and purpose and happiness from external sources simply serves to trap you in a cycle of disappointment as you never get to focus on your own internal power, desires, or happiness.

So, start listening to yourself, and make space to do so with clarity and calm. Through listening to and championing your own voice, you learn to reflect on your feelings and desires. This better helps you decide on appropriate action that will bring you greater happiness and empowerment, by relying on yourself for your own happiness and personal power. This is much more sustainable than seeking happiness and answers from others.

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