Discover a More Empowered Version of You: 3. Raise your personal power

Encourage actions & behavior that raise your personal power

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Personal power is about not giving our power away to others, not seeking approval, not depending on affirmation. We can accept constructive feedback, taking such consciously as the opinion and perception of others, but ultimately, we assume the responsibility and role to be our own parent.

Personal power is assuming the full responsibility to be the parent to ourselves so as to take care of our own wellbeing. That also includes setting healthy boundaries and rules to desirable behaviour.

Remember that there are no right or wrong solutions per se. It is all a matter of perspective of the situations we find ourselves in. Personal power is also about being fallible and accepting our own shortcomings, failures or self-limiting beliefs without letting them cripple us. Doing so helps you face bad situations, learn from them, recover, and move on.

Personal power is also a sense of knowing: knowing who we are, knowing who we want to become, and knowing we have the courage, ability and power to find our own way in life.

Using the idea of archetypes, you can increase your personal power in two ways:

1. As a long-term strategy, try to emulate the thoughts, actions and behavior of a desirable archetype and integrate it into your lifestyle until it becomes habit.

2. To help you form those long-term mindset changes, you can use imaginary role play to envision yourself acting like your desired archetype would, in situations that you want to react differently to or do better in.

a. For example, if you’re afraid of public speaking, you can try to take on aspects of the hero archetype, maybe even mentally adopting the persona of a heroic public figure you admire who is a brilliant orator, in specific instances when you have to stand up and speak in front of lots of people. In those discrete specific instances, you may find your performance (or at

least your confidence) to improve!

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